Choosing To Stay With Professional Relationship Advice

By Christine Sanders


A human being is a mammal. Many mammals are social by nature, living in groups and raising families. Human beings are no different. Humans live in communities and, on occasion, fall in love with one another. But it does not always last. Sometimes, the feeling can fade. But those feelings can be resurrected with professional relationship advice.

Human beings fall for each other for a number of reasons. Intimacy is among them, a person wants to be vulnerable every now and then, wants to let their walls down, and having an intimate partner allows that to happen. But the main reason people fall, at least the heterosexuals, is because of procreation. Human beings pair off because of some ingrained instinct to find someone to help make more human beings.

But really should be careful what they wish for. Yes, children are a gift and hearing their cries for the first time after they enter the world is a beautiful, special moment. But children are also little monsters with unlimited amounts of energy who run, kick, and scream everywhere because they do not possess the necessary skills to communicate their thoughts eloquently. Keeping one alive requires a substantial investment of time and energy, and also money. As such, it can be easy to partners to lose sight of each other during the whole process of starting, and then raising, a family.

However, it is not just kids that can drive two people apart, sometimes because they are people, fully realized and independent adults with thoughts and feelings. Now, these thoughts and feelings color the opinions a person may hold, which means that opinions may vary. Now, if opinions differ in a relationship, it can lead to an argument. An argument can lead to an issue. An issue can fester like toxic mold until it poisons the whole thing. Different opinion are allowed, but unresolved issues are not.

But it is not just resentment and children that pull a romance apart. The seven year itch is a psychological phenomenon that states that satisfaction in a relationship dips after about seven years of being together. In fact, research shows that divorce generally happens after seven years of marriage, lending some truth of the concept of a seven year itch.

But the dissolution of a union is not completely dependent on resentment or on children. Sometimes, two people just stop working as a couple. It is not the fault of anyone in the relationship, some things just come with an expiration date.

But of course, for all things, there is help. Some may pen a letter to an advice columnist. But those with any kind of sense will go to a therapist of some kind to work out issues.

At the end of the day however, love is about choice. The choice is to stay in love. Couples have to wake up every day and choose each other, choose to care about one another.

Love is a difficult thing to let die. With the right partner, it never has to. But keeping something alive can take a little bit of help.




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